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Second Time Around the Block
By Skye Thomas
Divorce happens. I'm not going to
debate the causes or the moral and ethical implications of that here. Even
if you're the innocent one who stuck to your vows and got dumped anyway,
you still have to pick yourself up and move on. So let's start from that
place. At some point you will wrestle within yourself and within your spiritual
and religious beliefs as to whether or not you will date again. This article
is for those of you who have decided that yes, you are going to date again
and maybe even get married again. You've decided to give love a second
chance.
In order to improve your odds at
succeeding, you need to consider your timing. If your goal is to find true
love and to have a wonderful long-term relationship with someone, then for
your new partner's sake you must have worked through your issues over the
last one. You may be dying inside, feeling incredibly vulnerable, alone,
and needy. That's the time when it's easiest to reach out clutching at the
first person who comes along that looks like they might be a decent fit into
your world. Those rebound relationships seldom work out. Even if through
your pain and misery you did manage to pick the ideal mate for yourself,
you are still going to have emotions around your old partner. The new partner
has to endure watching you ache and hurt for a marriage that's over. If you
truly loved your spouse, even if you're the one who asked for the divorce,
then you're going to have feelings of remorse and a need to mourn what is
dead and gone. Ideally, you wouldn't have married them in the first place
if you didn't truly love them and you have to on some level have expected
'happily ever after.' Even if you stayed too long and had time to process
through the emotions of wanting to leave, you still have a good chance of
feeling like you've failed at something so incredibly important. It can be
excruciating to fall madly in love with someone and have to postpone the
'honeymoon' stage of the relationship because your new love is processing
through all of this stuff and really isn't able to completely submerge themselves
into the beauty of falling in love with you.
If you can't wait until after you've
really healed from all of those little triggers and such that keep going
off in your head and heart, then at least be honest with your new partner
and let them know where you really are in the process. You owe them that
much. Give your new partner the truth as to where you are mentally so they
can make an informed decision about whether or not they want to enter into
a full time one on one relationship with you at this moment in time. You
don't have to be completely alone though either. Perhaps you could continue
dating lightly as friends and they can be a wonderful source of inspiration
and a great ego booster during your recovery. Then down the road when you've
gotten yourself in a place where you can really open your eyes and your heart
to completely focus on creating a new relationship, then you can make a
commitment. I think the key here is being really clear with yourself as to
where you are in the whole thing and also trusting your new partner enough
to tell them the truth.
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When you do get to that place that
you are able to really focus on someone else and you're truly ready to fall
in love, then there's some other things to consider. It's only natural that
each of our relationships shapes us and effects who we become on some level.
How many of us have little quirks that arose due to past loves? Perhaps you
were with someone abusive and now every time someone even raises their voice
during an argument, red flags start going off and you start panicking. Perhaps
you worked your tail off day and night to financially support a high maintenance
princess and now you shutter every time your new girlfriend talks about needing
more money to pay the utilities. Perhaps your partner forced you into sexual
acts that weren't in your best interest and now you have some hang ups in
the bedroom. These are all very natural and normal reactions. We are adaptable
creatures that typically learn from our mistakes and try to not repeat bad
circumstances. So why wouldn't we be cautious in the future? I'm simply
suggesting that you sit with these thoughts for a while and make sure that
you are not being unfair to your new partner. Are you punishing them for
things that your ex did to you? Are you living your life as though the new
person is exactly the same as the old one? Are you unconsciously creating
a self-fulfilling prophecy and forcing your new partner to play out a role
that your spouse played? Just look at these things and be aware. It can really
make the difference between repeating another bad marriage and having a
successful second chance at love.
One last thought which is sort of
the flip side to the one just mentioned. Sometimes we don't realize that
we try to repeat the good things from our old relationship with the new partner.
For example, taking them on the exact same romantic weekend and trying to
relive the wonder of the first time with the first partner. Sometimes we
don't realize that we make unfair comparisons, "Well my first wife always
had my dinner on the table when I came home." "Well my first husband knew
how to fix the car so that we didn't have to pay a mechanic to do it." Don't
look to recreate the first marriage. Instead, remember that this is a unique
and different relationship with a unique and different partner. Love them
for who they are.
About the author:
Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow's
Edge
About The Author
Skye Thomas began writing books and
articles with an everyday practical approach to life in 1999 after twenty
years of studying spirituality, metaphysics, astrology, personal growth,
motivation, and parenting. After years of high heels and business clothes,
she is currently enjoying working from home in her pajamas. Go to
www.TomorrowsEdge.net
to read more of her articles and to get a free preview of one of her
books.
Skye@TomorrowsEdge.net
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become easier to deal with. Alas, being dumped is one of the crummiest situations
we mere mortals have to surmount.
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We've all been dumped or have been
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is a horror story depicting the importance of breaking free if it ever happens
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I am sure that we have all been through
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is something that we were expecting, however more often than not it comes
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This is a very common problem for many
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finding any `ole` girl, even if below my standards, and getting married just
dumped me. After all the family had pressuring me anyway. Then I got realistic
and began researching to find out where I went wrong and why I felt so low
a man. Enter Inner Game.
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than a break-up , "Being Dumped" or rejection.
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to Ease the Pain of a Breakup
Whether you do the dumping or you are the one who got dumped, breakups
are painful. If you initiated the breakup you may feel guilty, or question
that you made the right decision. If you were the one who got dumped you
may feel shocked, hurt, and angry. Breakups are painful for either
party.
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Now I really have seen everything...
The other day, I saw a television show with a very curious premise: They
found a good-old Southern boy who was such a charmer, 6 of his ex-girlfriends
(some, who had been flat-out "dumped" by him) were willing to line themselves
up in front of a camera for 120 minutes, and go through various and sundry
interviews, to see whether or not they could pass muster with him, the second
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It is a sad fact of life, but there
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This week I want to talk about dumping
your girlfriend. Unfortunately a lot of relationships just don't work out.
And if you find yourself in a relationship that is going nowhere, it is best
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all your feelings for her, whatever you do, don't lead her own and stay in
the relationship just to have someone to be with or for sex.
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into the dumps. But what if you’re somewhere in the middle?
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yourself and move forward as a better more desirable person.
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